Still Have Hope

Even though this article in Scientific American basically poo poos online dating algorithms, still have hope that OkCupid could work.  OkCupid match percentages are based on what the users think are important to them.  Users should know themselves better than anyone else, right?

Seems About Right

Came across this article.  It talks about how men will just about talk to anyone (in their league and out of their league).  Seem about right.  I think guys look at online dating as a number game.  The more emails they send out, the higher the responses/potential dates.

Aggressive and Insecure

Who knew aggressive and insecure was even a possible combination???  Wait, I did.  The Brain and now Smart Guy?  Sht.

Never A Good Sign?

Ever meet a guy in person (from online) and hear the question, "So, what do you think of match/OkCupid/Plenty Of Fish/etc?"  I have twice.  Both those experiences have not been good.  I think those are the guys looking for a girl who will just put out.  It's like the dck from a couple of weeks ago (yeah, the "frigid" name calling guy  who I saw walking around downtown on Friday and and this guy).

I'll admit it, I've asked the "What do you think" questions to guys I am not interested in ever ever ever seeing again.

Advice
If the guy asks you about your online dating experience while on a date with you (awkward to begin with), lower your hopes and expectations.

Online Dating

I know millions of people date online.  I also know many couples who have gotten married after meeting online.  This online dating adventure doesn't seem to be panning out for me.  I have met some scary, creepy, and sketchy guys.  A couple of guys were not creepy, but there was also no spark.

How am I supposed to meet a nice guy?  Have also met some scary, creepy, and sketchy guys offline.

Fck, Smart Guy could have worked out so well if I didn't find him kinda scary.

What's Your Number?

I was talking to some younger ladies today (early, mid, late 20s).  They still think knowing someone's "number" (not phone number) is important.  I am in my early 30s.  I guess I used to care about that in my 20s, but now I really don't.  What is it really supposed to say?  No matter what, someone is going to lie.  Why bother asking and what does it matter?

I could marry a guy that never tells me his number.  If he offers, I'll walk out of the room.

I'm Done

I'm done with Smart Guy.  He likes to get under people's skin.  He likes to be condescending.  He likes to know everything, but has no right to know everything.

Logged onto OkCupid earlier today and he was on too.  I honestly don't care.  Another great on paper, but not in reality guy.  Next!

Peter Pan Syndrome

Was at a networking event earlier this week.  Again, met many nice young ladies that can't find a decent guy to save their lives.  One mentioned the Peter Pan Syndrome which is prevalent (according to her).  Her reasoning:

• Many people do not plan on living in SF forever
• It's too difficult to buy a house, raise a family, etc. without a TON of cash
• Organizations here are pretty flat, so career wise, not much room for growth

Time to think about moving again!

OkCupid and Paid Sites

The more I use OkCupid, the more I convince myself I should stick with it.  Look at the screenshot.  OkCupid did the math on why paid sites do NOT have good odds (this was before they were bought by match.com).

Not Deleted

I contacted Smart Guy because I was fuming about something he said to me.  It was so judgemental.  He actually responded and was nice (did not expect this).  Smart Guy's number is not getting deleted this week.

By the way, I think he's been cheated on or scorched in some other way.

Closure

I would like some closure.  Limbo is not a good place, would like to know if I should delete someone's number out of my phone.  Would also like it if someone didn't assume I seriously lacked morals and ethics (which is what I think is going on right now).  So I did something that should get me an answer/closure...I feel pretty good now.

Not Ready

Don't know if I am ready for a relationship.  Actually, pretty sure I am not (either because I haven't met the right guy or it's not the right time).  Really thought I was.  I get freaked out easily.  This isn't directed towards anyone in particular, or is it?  Who knows, maybe he feels the same way.  The momentum (and my giddiness) are at super low levels right now. 

I also feel "off."  Smart Guy is great in person, but I am kinda uncomfortable right now (had some unpleasant conversations with him).  I know, totally singing a different tune today (compared to a couple of weeks ago).  I think he is judgemental and might also be close-minded (he really didn't seem that way in person).  I don't walk on eggshells, not part of my nature!  A friend had a great point, it's a good thing I'm learning all this stuff now vs later.

Couldn't care less if he does or doesn't contact me (yes, I do flip flop on this depending on the hour of the day).